So I try to go into each more neutrally now, without any preconceived ideas.” It’s so interesting – the dates that I didn’t have high hopes for are the ones that have been my favourites. “But now that I’ve been on so many dates, I feel like I can just go and have a coffee. “Drinking does take away the anxiety of meeting somebody, but once you’ve had three … well, you’re going to have a good time,” she says. The project is also shaping the way she dates – increasingly, she’s swapping boozy nights out for coffee, keeping her judgment intact. I’ve been surprised, sometimes, by how long I’ve stayed on a date when I probably should have called it earlier.” In the future, I think I would recognise that sooner. “For example, I went on one where he was ‘negging’ me and I don’t think I realised at the time. “When you’re on a date, you’re in the moment, so I’ve definitely learned about what I like by posting about them online afterwards,” she says. ‘I try to go into each date neutrally now, without any preconceived ideas’ Photograph: David Levene/The Guardian She says she’s benefited from being able to revisit her own footage – it’s become a way for her to spot those much-discussed and derided dating red flags (something which other TikTok users are also all keen to point out in the comments). The point is to get to know somebody without a facade.” Be comfortable in knowing that you’re the prize – you don’t have to impress anybody. What advice would she give them? “You need to have confidence in yourself first. “I’m like, cool, other people have gone through this as well.” A few have even told her they’re going to give 50 first dates a go themselves. “People contact me saying ‘this exact date happened to me’,” says Zaslawski. There’s an intimacy to her videos a sneak peek into the ruthless world of modern dating for those who aren’t familiar – and welcome reassurance for those who are. Like them, Zaslawski usually films herself getting ready for a date, then a few snippets from the date itself – “I always duck to the bathrooms, or to their bathroom in some cases, and quickly record” – followed by a debrief. “I was like, ‘god, she is bou -jee!’” And the TikTok account 2 Girls 1 Pup follows the dating adventures of two housemates (and their dog) using the hashtag #unhingeddating. Earlier this year, New Yorker Marin Haugo went on 28 dates in 28 days. Zaslawski is not the first to chronicle her quest for love on social media. Be comfortable in knowing that you’re the prize You need to have confidence in yourself first. “If I meet somebody, then the series ends,” she says. “Other weeks I might not go on any.” Zaslawski, who is bisexual, started the series in January, and aims to get through all 50 dates by the end of the year – unless, of course, she finds love before then. “Some weeks I’ll go on three dates if I’m feeling really social,” she says.
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